…you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret. – Jim Carrey
For this week’s quote we can thank Canadian-American actor, comedian, impressionist, screenwriter, and film producer Jim Carrey. It is timely for me as I continually become more comfortable with who I am, and am starting to cherish each moment for what it is – now – as opposed to where it can potentially take me.
To the above point, I have always spent a little bit too much time in an aspirational space – focused on what I can accomplish in 3/5/10/__ years once I develop ABC skills or get XYZ experiences; I generally think about life in 3-5 year increments, ruminating on where I want to be within ___ time and what I need to do to get there: If I go through a 6 month timeframe and haven’t accomplished anything significant I often get anxious about my life choices, and I tend to keep one eye to the future with the other simultaneously turned to the past – always searching for the next step while conversely examining the past to avoid mistakes in the future.
^I’ve never tried to change this aspect of myself because I’ve always viewed my restlessness (and at times borderline neuroticism) about the future as – at core – a strength more than a weaknesses. I think it’s good to stay hungry for more: It keeps me focused and driven.
…And yet I have come to realize that I am at my most fulfilled – and dare I say even absolute best – when I find peace in the moment, focusing on performing exceptionally on the task at hand, and celebrating the success and development of others; I find something approaching real satisfaction when I live life in the present, without regard for how my actions in the moment will impact the future.
^I can’t live in this space most of the time (it’s fundamentally not who I am) – but I am getting better at being in this space some of the time. And as we get started this week, I would encourage you to do the same.