…for what you want now.” – Zig Ziglar
For this week’s quote we can thank American author, salesman, and motivational speaker Hilary Hinton “Zig” Ziglar. It is timely for me as a reminder that not all battles are worth waging, and not all hills worth dying on.
To the above point, I recently came against considerable push-back whilst in the pursuit of a long desired personal objective. I felt justified in the ask and believed it aligned closely with the objectives of the other stakeholders involved, but learned once I looked to move forward that I didn’t have the alignment needed to realize my goals.
…I am both an agreeable and solutions-focused person by nature; given enough time I can almost always come up with a collaborative solution that leaves most parties happy, and in the absence of said time can still generally strike an acceptable interim compromise. In this case I could find neither, however; and while anger has historically been a near alien experience for me, in this case I found myself irate with the outcome. I simmered on it for the better part of a week, considering alternative means to obtain my objective and dwelling on what I would do if they too were unsuccessful. Then – finally at my whit’s end – I got enough distance from things to realize what in hindsight should probably have been obvious at the outset:
I had to let it go.
^I realized I had to do so because the goal I was seeking was ultimately a short-term objective weighed against my larger plans, and the social capital I would have to burn to accomplish it against existing headwinds wasn’t worth expending. Examining these facts in sum, I decided to bide my time and re-visit another day.
…As we get started this week, let’s look to remember that wanting something badly shouldn’t always be the basis behind how vigorously we pursue it. Because at the end of the day – particularly concerning matters of negligible or moderate importance – we can’t win all the time.
^And in these cases, sometimes the long road is the most expedient one.