…Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.” – Mary Schmich
I am naturally a competitive person; not about everything, but ferociously so where it concerns the things I care deeply about.
…Once or twice (or thrice), these competitive feelings have given way to jealousy.
In these situations it has often been difficult to draw upon the wisdom of Schmich’s words. This is perhaps not all that surprising. A power of jealousy is that it clouds one’s ability to think clearly; it spurs feelings of frustration and inadequacy in the space where optimism and confidence once resided.
Having experienced the gnawing self doubt, anger and irritation intrinsic to jealousy in both my personal and professional life, I believe that the best way to conquer these emotions is to focus on what it takes to make yourself happy. Don’t allow your sense of satisfaction to be driven by the happiness of others – to do so is short sighted, non-constructive, and may cause you to say or do something you regret.
Set goals for yourself. Stay focused. You’ll obtain what you’re striving for.
It just takes time.
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